Saturday, July 18, 2009
A BOND LIKE NO OTHER

Two weeks ago Jett was running around the yard, chasing tennis balls, scrounging biscuits from every delivery truck driver who rolled up the driveway, and acting far, far younger than her 9½ years.
Then on July 3, she stopped. She spent most of the day lying on her side, ignoring her food, her toys, and the weekend guests that she normally assumes showed up to play with her.
On July 4, the vet gave her a B-12 shot and began treating her with antibiotics, hoping it was Lyme disease. But when the pathology report came back three days later the news was devastating. Leukemia.
Jett immediately went on prednisone, and the steroids helped her get back some of her appetite, and enough spark to take a hike in the woods.
On July 11 we drove upstate to see the oncologist. She got her first chemo treatment and a grim prognosis.
Thursday morning I opened the garage and she sprawled out next to the car to wait for me. But when I was ready to leave she didn’t move from the garage floor. I had to lift her up and put her in the back seat and she lay there panting.
I drove down the New York State Thruway in the pouring rain, calling my wife and my friends and bawling like a baby.
Yesterday the latest blood test came back. The chemo isn’t working. Her white blood count quadrupled in ten days. That put the final crack in my denial system. The oncologist confirmed that there was nothing more that could be done. On Sunday morning, she will depart, leaving a black hole in our hearts.
But today we celebrated her life with a farewell party. Dozens of her friends — both the four-legged and two-legged variety — came to the house to sniff her butt, shake her paw, rub her belly, hug her, pet her, and say one last bone voyage. For dinner I grilled her a shell steak. She wolfed it down (thank you prednisone).
Tomorrow morning we say our final goodbye.
For those of you who only know Jett from my books and my site, if you’d like to say goodbye as well, this is the place. I promise to read her every email. Even after she’s gone.
Marshall posted on July 18, 2009 8:41 PMI am so sorry. I know how the loss of a beloved pet hurts.
Jett is lucky that she has had such wonderful life full of love and grilled steaks with you, and that her comfort is your top priority. What you are doing is not the easiest thing but it's the kindest.
Thinking of your family and Jett. Maybe she'll meet up with my Lucy in doggie heaven and they can chase a ball together.
donna posted on July 18, 2009 10:23 PMMarshall,
How wonderful that you were able to know Jett, and you could be her best friend. How wonderful that she brought joy and book reviews to your planet. May she live on forever in your words and your memories.
Trevor
Trevor posted on July 18, 2009 10:32 PMI never cease to be amazed at the ways animals touch our lives and truly become members of our families. It's been four years since my dog Checkers died (also of cancer) but he's in my thoughts every day. Thinking of you and your family.
Amy posted on July 18, 2009 10:47 PMMarshall -
You and Jett were lucky to have each other's love and companionship. I am so sorry to hear this! How sweet that you had a farewell party for her and I'm glad she was able to enjoy the steak. I hope that the black hole in your heart will soon be filled with loving memories of Jett. My heart goes out to you.
Susan
Susan posted on July 18, 2009 10:58 PMSaying our last farewells to our precious animal companions is never easy. I hope that soon you will be able to think of her without tears but with warm thoughts and gentle smiles. I will hug my cats tighter tonight and think of you and Jett.
Patricia posted on July 18, 2009 11:00 PMI'm so sorry about Jett. I remember when my cat was dying I ordered his favorite Kung Sala Shrimp and he wolfed it down. It's been 10 years and I still cry when I see Kung Sala shrimp on the menu.
lesley posted on July 18, 2009 11:18 PMI am so sorry, Marshall. I am sure that she has given you so many wonderful memories... memories that you and your family will cherish for a lifetime. I know this is not an easy thing, as my family had to do the same for our family black lab, Beauty, years ago. It has been well over 20 plus years since she has departed, and I think of her as fondly today as I did back then. It was just like losing a family member.
I know Jett will always have a special place in your heart. Farewell to her, as I hope that Beauty and the rest of the faithfully departed four-legged creatures will greet her with open arms as she begins her next endeavor in Doggy Heaven.
Gina posted on July 18, 2009 11:20 PMIt's been over three years and I still miss my old dog Winston. Isn't it a horrible and wonderful thing when we care so much for an animal that gives unconditionally. My prayers are with you and Jett this Sunday.
J.A. Jensen posted on July 18, 2009 11:24 PMTo a wonderful dog and friend. Though we have never met I know of your amazing awesomeness. Jett, my dear pup, you will hold a place and internet histories forever. Peace be with you.
Robert B posted on July 19, 2009 1:57 AMHi Marshall,
This resonates deeply with me.
I 'lost' my Border Collie, and soul mate, Badger, to the big 'C' five years ago and did the same, tests, treatment to the inevitable end. I had him trained perfectly and he understood every word I said.
Five years on...I still think about him and browse old photos and footage (You've Been Framed prepare!), but time has eased the pain and I have memories galore to cherish.
I still pine for that special bond and have been secretly scouring the net for Golden Labradors, but don't tell the Mrs!
Give Jett a kiss from me and keep both your chins up, fella.
Will be thinking of you on Sunday.
Regards,
Col
So sorry, (((hugs))). It's never easy, I know we second guess ourselves all the time over the loss of our Bayley.."what if we had only?? or why didn't we??"
Now we are dealing with facing the loss of our yellow lab Sage. Trying to decide if its time?How do we know for sure?
Animals bring such an amazing joy to our lives. Cherish your memories and know you gave Jett the most amazing life.
Lisa posted on July 19, 2009 7:45 AMJust found your blog ... there are no words big enough to encompass the part pets play in our lives, or the love and joy they bring to us. It's clear how much Jett means to you—my deepest sympathies.
wyo posted on July 19, 2009 8:42 AMMy deepest sympathies to all of you. I recently lost 3 dogs in 14 months so I know what you are going through. They are members of the family, no matter what any one says. They leave paw prints on our hearts and memories that will last a life time. God Bless.
Terri posted on July 19, 2009 9:01 AMMarshall -- I'm so sorry.
Jett is well-loved.
Hang in there. A lot of hearts are with you.
ashley posted on July 19, 2009 9:57 AMJett will forever live on. I believe there is a place in heaven for our beloved pets who really are another member of our family. You were blessed to have Jett as he was blessed to have you.
Jett you will always be loved and remembered!
Marshall, I am very sorry to hear about Jett. When I was very young, I told my grandfather that it was very unfair that the lives of our pets were so short and asked him why did we had to hurt so much because we loved them. My grandfather told me that when I got to heaven that every pet I ever had would be there as there is no purer love than the love that a pet has for its owner and that this short time of hurting now would be forgotten when we saw each other again. Johnny.
Johnny posted on July 19, 2009 2:33 PMTears are welled up and emotions are raw. I have lost a few beloved pets in death. Their lives are short and their love so intense. They talk with their eyes. It is never easy to accept that pure love being gone.
I have two 8 year old doggies now and, when the time comes (and I cry to think of it), I will be beyond consoling. We do become so connected on a level that is inexplicable.
Ellen lost Tango and you lost Jett. Be happy that you are among the fortunate who had that fabulous relationship. My sympathy.
Sandi
My heart goes out to you over your loss. Cherish the memories of all the years you made each other happy keeping Jett forever in your heart. ... Mo
Mo posted on July 19, 2009 6:48 PMSomeone once told me that the reason the grief is so pure when we lose a pet is because the emotion they gave us during their life was pure. There were no airs, no inflated sense of self (not unless you have a cat of course), no drama, no infedelity, no one calling you fat or stealing your babysitter, no confused feelings. Pure love. And when they leave: pure grief.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
AndreAnna posted on July 19, 2009 7:44 PMMarshall,
So sorry to hear about Jett and his illness. I am glad that he is not in pain and that he did not suffer...he was also lucky to have a "Dad" like you, as well...hope you are well, and know we are thinking about you at this sad time...
Liz
Liz posted on July 19, 2009 8:29 PMMarshall,
There is nothing I can say, except I'm sorry for your loss and your pain.
Meredith
Meredith posted on July 19, 2009 8:47 PMTo Marshall & Emily & Jett, Thanks s'much for sharing your sorrows and joys with us. Those that live with our companions know how unique they are with us. Jett's special-ness was shared with many 2-legged and 4-legged. Jett's friends are many. Her love given and receieved is a blessing for all who have known her ~ and all who know her love her. That says a Helen of a lot, Dannit! We love you forever always Jett!!! For the Queen of the Class and her awesome Dad, her super Mom ~ R & H & DB
Robin & Helen & Danny posted on July 19, 2009 10:24 PMThe happy thing is Jett had the best life.
This is what I think of when faced with this sorrow. And it helps a bit. She had the very best life. This is a happy thing.
Here is the best poem I have ever read about our relationship with our beautiful animals with whom we share our lives.
MONGREL
by Robert Service
A puppy dog without a collar
Annexed me on my evening walk;
His coat suggested fleas and squalor,
His tail had never known a dock.
So humble, trusting, wistful was he,
I gave his head a cautious pat,
Then I regretted it because he
Accompanied me to my doormat.
And there with morning milk I found him,
Where he had slumbered all the night;
I could not with displeasure hound him,
So wonderful was his delight.
And so with him I shared my porridge--
Oh! How voraciously he ate!
And then I had the woeful courage
To thrust him through the garden gate.
But there all morning long he waited;
I had to sneak out by the back,
To hurt his feelings how I hated,
Yet somehow he got on my track.
For down the road he sudden saw me
And though in trees I tried to hide,
How pantingly he sought to paw me,
And yelped with rapture by my side.
Poor dirty dog! I should have coshed him,
But after all 'twas not his fault;
And so I took him home and washed him,
--I'm that soft-hearted kind of dolt.
But then he looked so sadly thinner,
Though speckless clean and airy bright,
I had to buck him up with dinner
And keep him for another night.
And now he is a household fixture
And never wants to leave my side;
A doggy dog, a mongrel mixture,
I couldn't lose him if I tried.
His tail undocked is one wild wiggle,
His heaven is my happy nod;
His life is one ecstatic wriggle,
AND I'M HIS GOD........
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Reading about your relationship with Jett brought back a lot of great memories for me of the pets i have had in my life and of how hard it was to see them go. I have had the great misfortune of " putting to sleep" a few of my pets due to various illnesses, and as much as i knew it was best for them it didn't help the pain that i felt for losing someone i loved, and that loved me back, unconditionally.
Lance posted on July 19, 2009 11:55 PMI can only know your sadness through my tears. I so love Jett. I thank God for giving me Helen, who brought me to Kyle who brought us all together. Doggie folks love each other and each other's doggies like their own. I am sure my dear Jessy and Buddy are helping Jett feel at home and loved. I asked them to be at "The Bridge" for her to help, to comfort, to welcome...to show Jett the best places to sniff, pee and romp and of course eat! For love that trancends here, there, and everywhere, Hugs again from Robin & Hell's Bells and Danny
Robin & Helen & Danny posted on July 20, 2009 6:02 PM